Stop it! You're doing it wrong!

It's come to my attention that I suck at dating.

Not in the sense where I tell a guy I'm on a date with that he smells like a fishmonger in August, or I show up at the wrong place and don't call them, or even worse- can't get a date to begin with. Thats actually not difficult at all (though some of my friends might question the guys I go out with).

For the most part and from my understanding I'm actually a lovely date. I dress according to the location and time of the date (because if you're having a picnic at the park, no matter how chic you think you are- heels and a skirt are not conducive to walking through grass and eating on the floor). For the most part I am charming, and witty. And I almost always have fun! So how do I suck at dating then?

I suck at dating because of the game thats involved.

How would a guy know if you like him on a date? Well I usually tell them. (D'oh!)

MISTAKE NUMBER ONE! Apparently most guys don't like it if they know you like them.

It's all part of the chase.

Also, post date- I'll call. Or text. Or want to talk to the guy (if I like him). I'm not stalking b/c I am too busy to think about you all the time, or create a shrine, or write poetry about your curly hair...etc.  I just like to share ideas and thoughts with a person  (if I like him) so they can get to know me better, and I them.

MISTAKE NUMBER TWO!! Apparently most guys don't want you to like them, share with them or contact them.

It's all part of the chase.

Why are men obsessed with the chase? What is it about the Y chromosome that makes men these avid hunters? Even the ones opposed to guns and weaponry?

I want to not being doing it wrong anymore though. Dates are a lot of fun- even the baddish ones. But do I play the game back? Do I need to step down as an 'Alpha' and let myself be chased? How could a girl like me(short, curvy and the face of Betty Boop) have such a masculine energy when it comes to dating?  Why the effin'eff am I so aggressive? I know men don't always like this, but I can't help it. If I see something I want, it's very difficult for me to sit still and be passive. My hearts on my sleeve to a fault I suppose.

For the most part I don't think that I'm doing anything wrong WRONG...But is it such a risk being yourself all the time?  I believe it's my only option. I guess I'm stuck at an impasse because I refuse to succumb to the nonsense. I refuse to be anything but myself.


Well, maybe I won't call or text as much in the future...but thats more as an act of temperance- but I'm not playing. I'm over games. OVER IT.

Even if that means I'm dating wrong. There's bound be a fella out there that doesn't mind a girl whose heart is on her sleeve right?